When Wes and I first got married I proposed the idea of getting away 3 times a year, even if it was just for one night. For each of our birthdays and for our anniversary. Each celebration perfectly spaced by 4 months. And for the most part, we've kept to that and it's been wonderful. We've been to a few bed and breakfasts in Gettysburg, New Holland, and the Finger Lakes. A hotel in a nearby town, camping close to home, Vermont with friends, and a night away for a wedding in Lancaster. I feel so blessed for having each of those opportunities. This little tradition has been pivotal in our marriage and purposefully creates time for us to have fun and relax. We laugh, we eat, we play. It's wonderful. For my birthday, Wes suggested just staying home and doing things around town. So we found a time my inlaws could watch the girls and made it happen. It was delightful and I feel so refreshed. We went out to lunch, napped, went for a hike, went to a book sale, went out to dinner, watched TV, slept in, I had hours to read by myself in the morning, and then made a big breakfast before picking up the girls. This intentional time together refreshed both of us and our love for one another. We talked at the restaurants, talked while hiking, talked in bed, talked during breakfast. I feel more connected to him. I feel heard and I listened. I'm so thankful. It also gave me a chance to miss the girls, which was so good for me. When we picked them up at my inlaw's house it was pure joy seeing them and I'm content not to be away from them for a very long time. And the girls had a blast! It was a win-win and we're so happy for that time alone and to be back all together.
... would you go to prom with me?” 11 years ago Wes asked me that question over the phone and it changed our relationship, and our lives, forever. That’s another story for another time. But almost 4 years ago, one of the first nights after bringing Sophia home from the hospital, Wes repeated that question and I just wept openly. I could weep now just thinking about it. He said it because we both couldn’t believe this life God has given us. Amazed at the love story He’s written us. Amazed at how we now had a child together. Making babies, being parents, raising children for the Lord, it’s exhausting and definitely a strain on marriage at times. But more than that, it is a new level of intimacy and fun that you just can’t experience without kids. Since Sophia, we journeyed through a miscarriage which also drew us closer and bonded us in a new way, Liza’s pregnancy and now almost two years of life, and in 8 days we will be holding our newest baby, Lydia June. As we prepare for her birth o...
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